I appreciate your observation, but what if I can't afford to hire someone to clean my house? That also doesn't address dishes, laundry, so it's a partial resolution. I think there are 3 other capable people in my house who should step up. My husband is just 1 of them. I agree, I think my husband needs to address his self-esteem issues. Thank you for taking the time to comment! I do agree getting outside help could alleviate some issues.