Thank you for telling me your story! Yes, there's a lot to unpack. The reason I wrote the post was to get people to talk. My husband and I are talking about our issues and how to solve them. Ultimately, if we don't resolve things, we'll have to part ways. I think my ask is really either get better at helping me pay the bills or get better at helping me around the house. Personally, I'd prefer the latter but if we can come to a consensus about what will give me more time to relax and de-stress. It would also help me to be more positive in our relationship. I think I snap at him more often because I'm frustrated and tired. You're right, good isn't great and I'm looking for how we get to great.