Wow. I'm so sorry you went through all of that. I'm so glad you're telling your story and letting your voice be heard. I'm so happy you didn't let him get away with it! I'm not letting mine get away with it either, it's change or go. Some people said oh, hire a cleaning service, use a Roomba (which I do), but they don't get the point, the gravity, the emotional toll, the lack of support. They don't understand it's not about a clean house, it's about the big picture.